#15 Forgetting to
Be Friends
The root of a healthy
relationship is friendship. Don't let your romance (or lack thereof) make you
forget that.
#14 Intentionally
Saying Hurtful Things
This is a tactic that
some people just didn't grow out of after high school like they should have.
Even when you are arguing with each other, don't say things that you know will
hurt them. Don't disrespect them or say something that could affect them
negatively.
#13 Not Resolving
Conflict
It's become pretty
popular to avoid saying "I'm sorry" at all costs these days. This may
work for you if you'd like to make your partner feel terrible, but owning up to
your mistakes will be worth it for both of you.
#12 Can't Handle
Distance
It is not uncommon for
someone to have a job that takes them far away at times. Some people are not
cut out for a relationship like this but will make the mistake of trying to
stick with it anyway. It may seem brutal to break it off because you can't handle
the distance, but in the end you will only be saving each other from years of
misery.
#11 No Romance
Sure, feeling like
you're in a chick flick can be pretty cheesy, but sometimes it's those cheesy
little moments that really show your partner that you care.
#10 Not Handling
Embarrassment
A lot of people will
accept being with someone that makes them feel embarrassed, or worse, someone
that is embarrassed to be seen with them. Don't sell yourself short just
because you're afraid of being alone. You owe them and yourself the respect to
get out.
#9 Not
Compromising
Let him pick where you
go to eat if you get to pick the movie or vice versa. In the end, neither of
you will really care what you did that day, but you'll always remember that you
were both willing to do something just because the other person likes it.
#8 Not Being on
the Same Page
Some couples have a
problem with one person feeling more committed than the other. The best way to
ensure this problem never arises is to make sure you're on the same page about
everything. Talk it out, assure your partner of how you feel about them.
#7 Not Seeing
Things From Their View
You need empathy to
get through any other relationship in your life -- with co-workers, your
family, your friends -- why should it be different with your partner?
#6 Making
Assumptions
One of the biggest
assumptions made in a relationship is thinking that your partner is a certain
way just because you met someone else that's that way too. The whole "all
guys/girls are the same" idea gets old fast.
#5 Pretending to
Like Things You Don't
This is a textbook
mistake that people have been making since the beginning of time! Be with
someone that shares your interests or at least someone that respect your
differences, you will be much happier.
#4 Expecting
Things to Change
This is a hard lesson
for some people to learn, but you can't change your boyfriend/girlfriend. Only
they can do that and only when they decide to. If you're waiting it out,
expecting something wonderful to happen, you're only wasting your time.
#3 Constant
Fighting
You may have been
raised to think that men and women are supposed to fight like cats and dogs,
but this is far from true. If you find yourself fighting nearly every day just
to make yourself heard, it's probably time to head out or send your partner
packing.
#2 Avoiding the
Issues
Couples that argue all
the time are not healthy, however couples that never discuss
the tough issues may be worse. If you both keep sweeping problems under the rug
and pretending to be happy, the downfall may be drastic.
#1 Expecting
Marriage to Fix Everything
Too many couples hurry to the alter expecting
it to magically fix everything. Marriage certainly can feel magical sometimes,
but it does not make life suddenly perfect.
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