Commitment cannot be a single minded decision, with one partner issuing all the rules and conformities, it has to be a mutual agreement of needs and requirements in a future you want to share together, with commitment levels you present to each other open to compromise and discussion. Pre-conceived ideas or fears about commitment is understandable and is essentially preparing you to understanding the difference between promise and commitment. 1. Love and respect – for each other and your individual philosophies on life and love. Ignoring your partner’s hopes and dreams just because they may differ to yours or trying to cancel or absorb someone’s personality is neither love nor respect. 2. Loyalty – to each other and the relationship, promises of exclusive dating –some couples see this as the only commitment needed within a successful relationship, it isn’t a stand alone commitment, but it still remains an ultimate commitment. Any commitments made with the absence of loyalty will appear to be nothing but hollow, broken promises. 3. Honesty – About your feelings, fears and insecurities, honesty about the relationship and your expectations. Revelations about your past, what you want to achieve in life, job prospects and career prospects that could affect your future together. 4. Spending time together – This also encompasses your personal levels of acceptable commitment to each others feelings and needs in the relationship. 5. Being there for each other – supporting each other through different stages of your lives, emotionally and physically, through good times and times of crisis. Emotional, practical and financial support should be a natural evolvement in any relationship and not a hardship to deliver as a commitment, strengthening the relationship with unparalleled protection and support for each other. 6. Trust – Without trust no relationship can survive, do you feel comfortable enough with the level of trust in the relationship, to admit to other relationships and why they failed without any fear of backlash or recriminations. Trusting each other when you are not together is a huge area for differences of opinion as to what is the appropriate level of trust before it becomes suspicious and obsessive jealousy. Trust levels need to be tested and established with practical aspects of the relationship, trust with finances, with children, with secrets, with family decisions and personal choices. So then Do you really know your partner? How well do you know your partner? Almost everyone has a side they never reveal. You can transcend boundaries and know the true inner self of your partner. You’ll be able to know about your partner’s hopes, desires, ambitions, romantic inclinations, relationship skills, sexual needs, childhood, work and career priorities, fears, complexes, apprehensions, values, money priorities, family goals, talents & skills, addictions, beliefs & convictions, self image and a lot else that you would probably never have discovered.